Hey future-focused babes —

There’s something about the end of the year that makes us reflect—on the love we’ve had, the red flags we missed, the lessons we finally learned, and the hope we still hold for what’s next.

So let’s turn those lessons into power moves.

This year, instead of setting vague resolutions like “date more” or “find someone,” we’re going deeper. We’re talking intentional, emotionally intelligent, no-more-settling standards that align with the love you actually want (and deserve).

Ready to reset? Let’s do it.

Goals are about doing more.
Standards are about expecting more.

• A goal is: “I want to go on more dates.”
• A standard is: “I won’t invest in people who confuse me.”

One will fill your calendar.
The other will protect your peace.

Grab a notebook (or the Notes app if you're in line at Starbucks). Reflect on these:

1. What patterns am I leaving behind in 2025?
   (Ghost chasers, low-effort texts, breadcrumb energy… be honest.)
2. What feelings do I want my next relationship to bring out in me?
   (Safe? Playful? Inspired? Grounded?)
3. What version of me do I want to bring into my next relationship?
   (Confident? Boundaried? Curious? Clear?)

Let these answers shape your new dating filter. Because who you are while dating is just as important as who you’re dating.

Here's a sample list of standards to get you started. Adapt as needed, and remember: you’re allowed to raise the bar midyear if you outgrow any of these.

I deserve someone who...

✅ Makes me feel emotionally safe, not anxious
✅ Communicates clearly (and doesn’t disappear)
✅ Respects my time, space, and boundaries
✅ Supports my personal growth (not threatened by it)
✅ Has the capacity to give, not just receive
✅ Can sit with discomfort instead of running from it
✅ Takes accountability—not just says sorry
✅ Matches energy and effort
✅ Is kind to strangers, waiters, animals, and exes
✅ Actually wants a relationship (not “just seeing where it goes”)

Make a mini vision board for your relationship goals:
Include images or words that reflect how you want to feel—not just how your future partner looks. Think:

• A peaceful morning coffee
• Texts that make you smile instead of spiral
• The words “consistency,” “fun,” or “respect” in big bold letters

Visualizing love with standards helps rewire your brain to recognize it when it actually shows up.

New year. New mindset. Same you—just louder, clearer, and way more emotionally aligned.

Let’s go get what we no longer settle for.