There is a scene that all couples know: she opens the closet, takes out a sweater that clearly isn't hers, puts it on, and he says nothing because deep down he knows he isn't going to get it back. And it doesn't bother him that much either.

The oversized sweater is, without anyone having officially declared it, the most shared garment in any relationship. Not the perfume, not the sneakers, not the hoodie. The sweater. Big, comfortable, warm, and with a scent that says it all.

Why the oversize works for both

The magic of the oversized sweater is that it is not designed for a specific body; it is designed for comfort, and that makes it naturally unisex.

For both of you, it works with the same things: jeans, joggers, boots, sneakers. It doesn't require much effort and always looks good. That, in couples' fashion, is a gift.

The styles that are best for sharing

Not all oversized sweaters are the same. These are the ones that travel best between closets:

The chunky knit sweater The most autumnal of all. Visible texture, structured drape, it really keeps you warm. In neutral tones (cream, gray, brown) it is practically universal. She wears it with leggings and over-the-knee boots; he with dark jeans and sneakers. The same sweater, two completely different looks.

The turtleneck sweater Effortlessly elegant. It is the one that most elevates any outfit; with it on, even the most basic jeans look intentional. It works for both in colors like black, olive green, or burgundy.

The textured sweater (bouclé or mohair) Softer, lighter, with that fluffy finish that looks luxurious, even if it isn't. She wears it loose with a midi skirt or dress pants; he can wear it over a button-down shirt for a more polished look.

The classic college sweater Stripes, lettering, color-blocking. It has a nineties vibe that is still trendy and that looks very well-coordinated as a couple, without needing to be exactly the same. She with the oversized sweater and miniskirt; he with the same model in a more fitted version or with the same color in a different piece.

How to coordinate without looking like you're in costume

The rule is the same as with any couple's look: complement, don't clone.

Same color, different garments. If you both go in olive green, don't wear the exact same sweater; one can wear the sweater and the other a jacket or an accessory in that shade.

Same palette, different textures. He in a sandy-colored chunky knit sweater; she in a cream-colored mohair sweater. Family of tones, different personalities.

The autumn colors most worn this year

If you are going to renew your closet this season, here are the shades you will see the most (and that work best for sharing):

·      Terracotta and brick

·      Olive and moss green

·      Burgundy and wine

·      Camel and brown

·      Petroleum blue

It is not the garment they wear to impress, it is the one they wear when they no longer have to impress anyone.

And that, in a way, makes it the most special of all.